If life is a Venn diagram, there is an upbeat section. And over the course of the last twelve months many of us have found it tough to keep a foot in that particular circle. Keeping in touch with our mojo can feel harder to do than it once was, but so much of what we feel is actually a decision, albeit often an unconscious one.
I’ve written three Meee in a Minute books on ‘micro-moments’. these offer a quick, practical way to change our opinions about things and, as a result, change how we feel, the outcome and even our life.
In Michael Singer’s book The Untethered Soul, he asks: Do you want to be happy? Yes or No? If it’s Yes, then what do you need to change to be happy?
We all know people who seem to be most content when they are miserable, but if you are not one of them, decide to be happy and do what you need to do to make space for happiness. If you do, your motivation will also increase.
There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind.
Aim for 1%
When we are in a slump or finding it hard to get motivated, the tendency is to pursue an all-or-nothing approach. Do not do this. You don’t train for a marathon by running a marathon. Start small and aim to be 1% better tomorrow than you are today.
What is it NOT?
Take a moment to turn your lack of motivation on its head. Make a list of the things that DO NOT motivate you. If it’s easier, consider what DOES NOT make you happy. The two are inextricably linked.
Sometimes it helps to focus on what we know we don’t want and won’t do as a way to gain clarity about how to regain our mojo.
One of the most powerful mind tricks that I employ each day is the gratitude ritual. I’m not perfect at it and I don’t always remember to do it, but the idea is to start and end the day with three things that I’m grateful for.
Consider tacking the process onto an existing habit so you don’t forget. Bring to mind three things, people, situations or whatever else you are grateful for in your life. Try to come up with different things rather than the same few each time. And don’t just list them like a shopping list. Really connect to that gratitude as an emotion. Remember, it’s not happy people who are grateful, but grateful people who are happy.
All these ‘micro-moment’ suggestions are focused on choosing a better frame or belief through which to view the circumstances of your life. Things are really challenging for a lot of people right now. But we need to stay motivated and positive. Making these little changes to your thinking can make a huge difference.
Sid Madge is founder of Meee (My Education Employment Enterprise) which draws on the best creativity and thinking from the worlds of branding, psychology, neuroscience, education and sociology, to help people achieve extraordinary lives. Web: www.meeebooks.com