Is your significant other a jerk?
Dump Your Significant Jerk Day was established to give people who are in a bad relationship, a reason to finally dump their other half. We’ve all been there. Some of you might still be wondering whether it’s time to get rid of your significant other. If you have been spending all of your time recently asking yourself. Why are they so mean to me? Why do I let them talk to me that way? Then it might be time to dump your significant jerk. So why not do it today?
I believe that often people even stay in bad relationships longer than they should because the fear of the pain of dating is scarier than the pain of a bad relationship! – Karen Salmansohn
In a bad relationship? Now is the time to leave
Many of us have stayed in relationships, despite the fact that we are unhappy and are not being treated right. If you have found yourself constantly wondering why your date has cancelled again. Friends have started to comment on your relationship. The one where you seem to be the only one giving in the relationship. You need to ask yourself. Why ARE you staying with them?
Today is the day to set yourself free!
Sometimes it feels difficult to get out of a bad relationship once you’re in one. Someone is at least there to message you each day. You’re not alone. Don’t let loneliness be an excuse for you anymore. If the relationship isn’t working. You are unhappy. Move on.
Dump Your Significant Jerk Day reminds you that you’re worth more!
10 tell-tell signs you’re with a Jerk
Don’t try to kid yourself that your other half is not that bad. If he/she displays these signs, then I’m sorry to tell you. Your significant other is a jerk and it’s time to move on.
1. Flirts with other girls
If your significant other flirts with other people. Whether it’s in front of you or behind your back. That’s not cool. It doesn’t matter whether you are outgoing and flirty as a person. If your other half is messaging other people and letting them believe they are interested. Dump them. You need a relationship based on mutual respect.
2. Doesn’t call or text you back
We are all busy. However, if you are doing all of the work and your significant other doesn’t seem that bothered. That means they just aren’t that into you. You want someone who will put in as much effort as you do. Find someone who can match your energy in the relationship or just have fun being single!
3. Won’t introduce you to their friends
If your significant other won’t make you feel part of their life or introduce you to their friends. Then they aren’t that serious or committed to you. If they go out all of the time with their mates, who know nothing about you, or if you are a secret. It’s time to move on.
4. Tries to make you feel jealous and insecure
If you are in a relationship where your other half intentionally tries to make you feel jealous and insecure. Then your significant other is a jerk. You should be made to feel special. Not in competition with other people. Similarly, if they talk about their ex all of the time, then they’re just not ready to commit to you. If you are unfortunate enough to be with a Narcissist, then triangulation forms part of this crazy-making. It’s time to leave a relationship like this before it damages your self-esteem.
5. Brings up your past to hurt you
Trust is a big thing in a relationship. We let our guard down, making ourselves vulnerable. Telling our significant other our innermost secrets. Including past mistakes. If your significant other constantly brings up things just to make you feel bad or hurt you. They are a jerk and need dumping. You should feel safe and protected in a relationship. Not on edge or feel under attack.
6. Only cares about themself and not you
Is your significant other self-obsessed? Does every sentence that comes out of their mouth start with ‘I’? If every time you try to bring the conversation back to yourself, you end up back talking about them. If they show no real interest in you and your life. Then this is a sign that your significant other only care about themselves. You will never be a priority. Especially if they are a Narcissist. Read my article on what is Narcissist abuse.
7. Puts you down and criticises you
It upsets me to hear just how many people suffer from being belittled and criticised in a relationship. Most often this will happen over time. This sort of behaviour erodes your confidence and self-esteem. If you feel that you are changing to please your partner. Not wearing the clothes you want to wear. Not going out to see the friends you hang out with. Criticised constantly for just being YOU. Your significant other is a jerk. Get rid.
8. Jealous and possessive
Jealousy and controlling behaviours are not romantic. It might seem romantic at first that your new love interest constantly texts to find out how your day has been. Wanting to know where you are. It might seem like your significant other is really into you. Unfortunately, they’re not. This is the behaviour of someone who is jealous and possessive, which can most often be problematic and even dangerous if left unchecked. Get out of the relationship while you can. Both are not healthy behaviours.
9. Expects you to pay for everything
I have never been put off by a guy who is broke. It can be fun dreaming up fun ways to be in a relationship on a budget. However, if you are in a relationship where your significant other expects you to pay for everything. Forgets their wallet. Is unwilling to share costs. If you feel that they are taking advantage of your generosity and kind nature. It’s not fair for someone to put this extra stress on you. Dump them!
10. Deliberately hurts and disrespects you
Anyone who deliberately hurts and disrespects you should go. I think this is the most difficult one to come to terms with. You have spent so much time together. Your significant other might even be telling you that they love you. However if someone can hurt you, they are acting like a jerk – they have no place in your life. Dump them and start celebrating the fabulous person that you are!
How to celebrate
Dump Your Significant Jerk Independence Day
Breaking up with someone is never easy. Especially if you have feelings for them and love them still. Life is too short to be unhappy. If your significant other can not see the fabulous person that you are and treat you accordingly. Save yourself. Your future self will thank you for it. Don’t stay in an unhappy relationship out of fear of being alone or just because it seems easier right now.
No doubt if you are reading this, then you know it’s time to dump your significant jerk. It’s time to get your life back on track. Find people who love you, think you are fabulous and are FUN to spend time with!
So happy Dump Your Significant Jerk Day! Or should we say “Independence Day”?
Leaving a Narcissist?
When you are dealing with a Narcissist or Psychopath, then manage your exit to the relationship carefully. If you feel in danger then confide in family or friend and make sure you are safe at all times. What’s most important is your personal safety and a period of time where you learn to come to terms with the abuse and love yourself again. If you plan on leaving a Narcissist, then you might like to read our article: 10 Ways to heal from a Narcissist Abusive Relationship.